Some of you saw this coming. You read my last post and just knew: that girl is quitting Facebook. Yes, it is true. I am finally finished with Zuckerberg’s grand experiment that began as a way for college kids to hook up at parties. I am too old for parties. Or maybe I am too young for the parties Facebook throws. Either way, I am no longer looking for the FB invitation.
For years I have been considering dropping this social for good, but I was never quite ready. Cutting the threads that tied me to so many people I’ve loved throughout life felt too final. This was a decision that would hurt.
And, truthfully, it will hurt, but I think it’s time.
Throughout my life I have found when making a decision that is right for me, my heart opens up, a smile sneaks onto my face, and I can, once again, breathe deeply.
I felt it the day I committed to Notre Dame. I felt it the day I married my husband. I felt it yesterday when I followed the impulse to check in with a former student. I felt it today when I formally decided to quit Facebook.
When a decision feels perfectly right, it is a decision approved of by God.
That instinctive feeling is one of the many ways God talks to us. We listen well when we’re young, our connection with God unfettered by social expectation. But somewhere along the way we start caring more about what others think about us and less about what we think about ourselves. When we stop listening to our souls, we stop listening to God.
Decisions like this one are sometimes hard to make because they feel personal, that somehow my choice is a judgement on yours. But using Facebook is not a moral decision. It is just an app. It is just a tool that we can choose to use, or not.
I made the decision to leave because this tool is no longer working for me. Instead of helping me stay connected, it has made me feel more disconnected from the people I love. It is time.
There is one aspect I will miss. FB was a fun way to share my blog posts and interact with you, so I want to give you a couple of options if you enjoy my random thoughts connecting life with faith. I’m over on Instagram (@godforevertries) and you can always get an email in your inbox each time I post by subscribing to the blog email list on my website (http://www.godforevertries.com).
If our lives are meant to touch again, and I hope they are, it will happen, with or without Facebook. In the meantime, I will miss you and I will be praying for you.